what it is

"it is what is it" this is a statement I have been struggling with for a few weeks now... I really want to believe that "it is what you make it" cause I think you should never settle for something less than what you want, but the more I think about it... I think there are times when "it is what it is" unfortunately there are some times when no matter how much you wish you could change a situation... sometimes it just "is what it is"